Life Stories 28/05/2025 15:28

TR@PPED IN MARRIAGE: DASHINE’S FADING SPIRIT AND A SHATTERING TRUTH

— You seriously expected to get the keys to MY house? — Dasha asked, not believing her ears.

Dashine didn’t want to admit even to herself that after seven years of marriage, almost nothing was left of her. Something important was disappearing piece by piece, imperceptibly, day by day — her sense of self-worth, joy, dreams. Sometimes she would catch her reflection in the mirror and not recognize the woman looking back — gaunt, with a dimmed gaze.

“You’ve really let yourself go,” Artemis constantly said, disapprovingly looking at his wife. “You used to be different.”

Used to be. Dashine remembered that “used to be” — when she believed their marriage was based on love and mutual respect. But the years of living together showed a different reality. Her husband saw her not as a partner but as an appendage to his life — a woman who had to cook, clean, plan the budget, pay the bills, remember all important dates, buy gifts for his relatives, schedule his doctor’s appointments — all this after her main job.

Dashine’s evenings looked the same: cook dinner, warm it up when Artemis deigned to come home (usually a couple of hours later than promised), listen to complaints about a hard day, wash the dishes, clean the kitchen. And what did the husband do? He’d lie on the couch with his phone or go out “to have a drink with friends,” because “he needed to relax after work.”

Their family budget was also maintained only by Dashine. Not that Artemis didn’t earn money — it just regularly vanished. A friend urgently borrowed some, then a new phone was “absolutely necessary,” then some urgent investment that never paid off. And afterward, with a disarming smile: “Dashine, you’ll pull us through, right?”

And she did, month after month, year after year. Until one day she realized she couldn’t anymore. The point of no return was the death of her father. Dashine was his only daughter and inherited a small house outside the city. Artemis then shrugged and said:

“Let’s sell it and buy a car. I’ve needed one for a long time.”

Not “we,” but “I.” At that moment, Dashine finally realized she had no family. There was only an eternally immature consumer who did not see her as a person.

The divorce went surprisingly smoothly. Dashine expected scandals, but Artemis was almost indifferent. They didn’t divide property — there was hardly any. The apartment they lived in was rented, and there was nothing worth fighting for. Artemis didn’t even try to dispute her decision to live in her father’s house. He only smiled smugly:

“Where will you go? You’ll call me back anyway.”

Dashine knew what he thought — she had nowhere to go except the inherited house. He thought she wouldn’t manage alone and would crawl back. Artemis’s friends let him stay “for a couple of weeks” — those very “friends” who had always been more important than his wife. Dashine almost heard their conversations: “She’ll freak out and call you back, where will she go?”

The first week after the move, Dashine simply slept. The deafening silence of the house, the absence of the need to jump at every demand, to account for every ruble spent — all this was a new, intoxicating feeling of freedom.

The second week she devoted to a deep cleaning. The house had been empty for several months, and dust covered all surfaces. Dashine washed, cleaned, threw out her father’s old things that reminded her of the hard last days of his life. She was freeing up space — for new furniture and a new life.

The third week was spent on repairs. Nothing major — fresh paint on the walls, replacing cracked tiles in the bathroom, fixing the creaky gate. Each action had an almost ritual meaning: Dashine was transforming not just the house, but her own life.

“So, how’s your country life?” Artemis asked during their only phone call. “Not tired of being alone yet?”

“I’m not alone,” Dashine replied, stroking the head of her new acquisition — a shaggy rescue dog. “I have great company.”

Artemis snorted and hung up. Dashine smiled — with each passing day, his calls meant less and less to her.

Three months passed. The house had changed beyond recognition. Light walls instead of faded wallpaper, new light curtains instead of heavy Soviet drapes, flowerpots on the windowsills, a neat lawn in front of the house. Dashine planted greens in the garden — parsley, dill, basil. In the mornings, she brewed tea and went out to the porch, inhaling fresh air and listening to the birds sing.

She found remote work — translating texts for a travel company. The income was modest but stable. Dashine didn’t sue her ex-husband for alimony — she didn’t want extra contact with Artemis, and she didn’t need it. Alone, with her dog, in a house with minimal utilities, she spent much less than before.

Each day was a small victory. Dashine relearned how to enjoy simple things — a tasty breakfast she didn’t have to share with a dissatisfied person, a movie she could watch without adjusting to someone else’s tastes, a quiet evening with a book without calls saying “I’ll be late for another hour.”

“You know, Marsean,” Dashine said to the dog, “I think I’m happy for the first time in a long time.”

The dog wagged his tail and looked at his owner devotedly. That look was worth all the words Dashine hadn’t heard from her husband during seven years of marriage.

That Sunday, Dashine planned to repot the houseplants. She had just finished breakfast when she heard the gatebell ring. Persistent, confident. Marsean barked and ran to the fence, wagging his tail.

“Who could it be?” Dashine muttered. The neighbors usually warned about visits, and she wasn’t expecting guests.

Throwing on a light sweater over her home T-shirt, Dashine went into the yard and headed to the gate. Marsean followed her, sniffing and trying to get ahead.

“Coming, coming!” Dashine called when the bell rang again, more insistently.

Opening the gate, she froze. Artemis stood outside. With a big suitcase. Smiling so smugly as if he deserved a medal for special merits.

“Hi, Dashine,” said her ex-husband in a tone as if they’d seen each other yesterday, not three months ago. “I decided to drop by.”

Marsean growled, sensing his owner’s tension.

“Artemis?” Dashine blinked, not believing her eyes. “What are you doing here?”

“Well, missed me?” Artemis tried to step onto the property, but Dashine instinctively blocked the way. “I thought you’d calmed down by now. Let me stay for a while.”

Dashine stared at her ex-husband, unable to comprehend his words. Was he serious? After the divorce, after three months of silence — just come with a suitcase and expect to be let in?

“You seriously expected to get the keys to MY house?” Dashine asked, not believing her ears.

Artemis looked at her confused, as if not understanding the point.

“What’s so strange? You’re alone anyway. Why waste good?” And he tried again to step onto the property, pushing Dashine aside with his shoulder.

Marsean sensed the threat and barked louder, standing between his owner and the stranger.

“You got a dog?” Artemis grimaced. “Why? Just dirt and fur. Fine, I’ll put up with it,” he said as if doing a huge favor.

Dashine looked at the man she had lived with for seven years and couldn’t believe she once loved him. Or thought she did. Somewhere deep inside, old insecurities stirred — maybe she should let him in? Maybe he really had nowhere to go?

“Your friends k!cked you out?” Dashine asked, feeling her heart pounding.

“Not k!cked out exactly,” Artemis shrugged. “Just uncomfortable overstaying my welcome. And here you are, alone, in the whole house. There’s space, and you’ll cook too…”

He said it so matter-of-factly that Dashine almost laughed. She’d be the one cooking. Of course. Because what else is an ex-wife for?

“Did you think I might not be alone?” Dashine asked, surprised at her own boldness.

Artemis gave her an assessing look — home T-shirt, messy hair, no makeup.

“Come on,” smirked the ex-husband. “Who’d want you? And doesn’t look like there’s anyone else here anyway,” he glanced over Dashine’s shoulder, inspecting the yard. “So, will you let me in?”

Marsean growled louder, sensing the rising tension. Dashine put a hand on his neck, calming him.

“No,” Dashine said firmly. “I won’t let you in. We’re divorced, Artemis. I started a new life. And there’s no place in it for…”

“For whom?” Artemis squinted. “For the man who put up with you for seven years?”

“Put up with me?” A wave of indignation rose inside Dashine. “You put up with me? Who paid the bills when you spent all the money on your ‘investments’? Who cooked, washed, cleaned, planned?”

“Oh, here we go,” Artemis rolled his eyes. “I thought maybe you got smarter over these three months. Learned something.”

“I did,” Dashine nodded. “I realized I was never happy with you. That you sucked all the strength, all the joy out of me. That I was not a wife to you but a free servant.”

Artemis stepped back, surprised by her retort.

“What, you’ve been watching those feminist videos of yours?” smirked the ex-husband. “Dashine, stop breaking down. Who needs you here, in the village? Will you let me in or not?”

Dashine stood by the gate, feeling a strange calm spreading inside. Three months ago, she probably would have cried. Or started to justify herself. Or even let him in — out of pity, fear of being completely alone, out of habit of giving in.

But now before her stood not the harsh judge of her life, but just a man — far from the smartest, not the most handsome, not the kindest. A man she once depended on for some reason. Depended emotionally, though in reality, he was the one who needed her, not the other way around.

“No,” Dashine said calmly. “I won’t let you in. And I have to go — I have a lot to do.”

Artemis leaned forward, clearly not expecting such an answer.

“Seriously?” the ex-husband asked incredulously. “You won’t let me in?”

And then something strange happened. Dashine laughed. Not nervously, not angrily — genuinely, with relief, like people do when they realize the mountain they feared is just a pile of dirt.

“Really, I won’t let you in,” Dashine said, laughing and wiping tears from her eyes. “Artemis, you left. And there’s no way back. This is my house. Not ours. Not yours. MINE.”

Artemis looked at his ex-wife with undisguised amazement. Where was that shy, insecure woman who always gave in? Who was afraid to say a word out of turn? Before him stood a completely different Dashine — calm, confident, firmly standing her ground.

“Is this pride?” Artemis finally blurted out, clutching at a straw. “I thought you’d at least fight…”

“Fight?” Dashine was amazed. “For what? The right to cook you dinners you criticize again? The privilege to pay for your whims? No, thanks.”

“But where will I go now?”

“Where all grown-up people without housing go,” Dashine shrugged. “Rent an apartment.”

Marsean, as if realizing the danger had passed, stopped growling and sat at his owner’s feet, attentively watching the stranger.

“Are you serious?” Artemis still couldn’t believe what was happening. “You’re just going to leave me homeless?”

“Yes,” Dashine nodded. “Exactly that. And now, if you’ll excuse me, my plants need repotting.”

With that, Dashine closed the gate in front of a stunned Artemis. Returning to the house, she felt an extraordinary lightness. There was no anger, no resentment — only quiet joy that she managed. Managed to say “no.” Managed to protect her space.

In the evening, the phone rang. Artemis. Dashine looked at the screen for several seconds but then answered.

“Hello.”

“Dashine, this is really stupid,” Artemis’s voice sounded conciliatory. “Think about it — the house is empty, there’s plenty of space. I’m not asking to live as husband and wife again. Just a roof over my head.”

“No,” Dashine replied. “And don’t call me about this anymore.”

Artemis kept calling. The next day, and the day after. First asking, then demanding, then reproaching.

“You’re cruel. I have no home. You could be a decent person,” Artemis said accusingly, words that would have made Dashine shrink and feel guilty before.

But now those words found no echo in her.

“I’m a person,” Dashine answered calmly. “Only now — first and foremost — for myself. You’re an adult, not a child — we broke up, so each on their own.”

Four days after Artemis’s sudden visit, Dashine decided it was time to take additional measures. Her calm was more important than anyone’s offended feelings.

Dashine called a locksmith from the city and changed the locks — on the gate and on the front door of the house. She also installed a simple video surveillance system — a camera at the gate and another on the porch. So she wouldn’t catch “surprises” in the form of uninvited guests anymore.

“Good job,” Dashine said to the locksmith, taking the new keys. “How much do I owe you?”

“Fifteen thousand for everything,” the locksmith replied, gathering his tools. “Good locks, reliable.”

Before, Dashine would have been scared by such an amount. But now she only nodded and took out the money. Security and peace of mind were worth every penny.

By evening, messages began coming from Artemis’s relatives. First, his mother, Irina Nikolaevna, wrote:

“Dear Dashine, how could you? Artemis says you didn’t let him in? He’s cramped with friends there, and you have a big house. Isn’t it possible to help?”

Then his sister, Oksana:

“I understand you broke up, but he’s a man with no roof over his head. Isn’t it too much to let him in even for a while?”

Dashine felt a familiar wave of guilt and doubt rising inside. Of course, she didn’t want Artemis to end up on the street. But she also had no intention of returning to the role of eternal savior of her ex-husband.

After some thought, Dashine wrote one message and sent it to everyone trying to pressure her conscience:

“The house is mine. There will be no keys. Let him rent a place like normal grown-ups do.”

After that, Dashine put her phone on silent mode and went to play with Marsean in the yard. The dog joyfully chased the ball, and Dashine enjoyed the warm evening and the feeling of calm confidence.

Gradually, calls and messages became less frequent. Life settled into a new routine. Dashine worked, walked the dog, met new neighbors. Some of them turned out to be very nice people — a family with two children across the street, an elderly couple two houses down, a single artist at the end of the street.

One day, Dashine invited her neighbor Vera for tea. They sat on the veranda, discussing plans for landscaping the plot.

“You know,” Vera said, sipping tea, “when you first moved, many thought you wouldn’t stay long. They said you’re a city girl and would run back quickly.”

“But I’m not going anywhere,” Dashine smiled. “I like it here. The silence, the air, my own space.”

“That’s obvious,” the neighbor nodded. “You look happy. It’s hard to believe you recently went through a divorce.”

Dashine thought. Yes, technically she went through a separation. But for the first time in many years, she felt truly alive.

A month after Artemis’s attempt to return, Dashine accidentally learned from a mutual acquaintance that her ex-husband had moved in with some girlfriend, with the same suitcase and the same lines about “temporary shelter.”

“How long has he been there?” Dashine asked without much interest.

“Two weeks already,” the acquaintance replied. “He says it’s temporary too, but you know Artemis.”

Yes, Dashine knew Artemis. And she was grateful to fate that she no longer bore responsibility for his life decisions.

That same evening, sorting through boxes with things she hadn’t yet sorted after the move, Dashine came across a small velvet box. Inside lay the wedding ring — simple, gold, with a small stone. A ring tied to so many hopes. And so many disappointments.

Next to it lay a photo album of their wedding. Dashine flipped through it, lingering on some photos. There they were at the registry office — she in a white dress, he in a dark suit. Both smiling. Who would have thought that after seven years, not a trace would remain of those smiles?

Dashine looked at the photos for a few more minutes, then decisively put the album in a far drawer. And threw the box with the ring into the trash bin. It was a symbolic gesture — a final farewell to the past. To that Dashine who always put others’ needs above her own.

Another month passed. Warm days gave way to the coolness of early autumn. Marsean stretched out on a rug near the door after a long walk, lazily watching his owner. Dashine threw a warm plaid over her shoulders and settled on the veranda with a book and a cup of hot tea.

Twilight slowly descended on the quiet street. Lights came on in neighboring houses. Somewhere in the distance, a dog barked. Dashine took a sip of tea and deeply inhaled the cool air, filled with the scent of fallen leaves and ripe apples.

The house was not empty, as Artemis’s relatives feared. It was full — full of her life, her interests, her peace. Without encroachments. Without the past. With hope for the future — not perfect, not cloudless, but her own.

Marsean got up, stretched, and came to his owner, resting his head on her lap. Dashine stroked the dog behind the ear, smiling. Sometimes the most important acquisition in life is not a new house but the ability to protect your boundaries. The ability to say “no” to those who see only convenience in you. The courage to live by your own rules.

Dashine put down the book and looked at the stars appearing in the evening sky. Ahead was a whole life — her life, without looking back at the past, without fear of the future. And that was the most wonderful prospect she could ever dream of.

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